But doing "it all" is a very bad idea, one that I've practiced over and over again. And, believe me, practice does not make perfect in this instance. But it doesn't prevent me from trying, leading inevitably to overload and stress.
Last year, I made a vow to myself that if I want to do a new thing – add a new class at the gym, join a hiking group, learn calligraphy, etc., etc., etc. – something else has to go. It's a simple equation: Add one thing, take one thing out. But it's simplicity does not make it any easier because here's the honest-to-goodness truth: I don't want to give anything up. I want it all.
Having made the mistake of sharing my "Add 1, Subtract 1 Vow" with a friend, I am often gently reminded of my oath.
In the most recent case, I was invited to participate in the American Craft Council's big event in San Francisco this summer. So excited, and ready to jump on the opportunity, I told my good news to my buddy. She calmly asked, "And what are you going to give up in order to do this?"
That took me to the calendar, to my schedule, and to my lists of commitments to galleries, commissioned work and my own events. There is no freaking way I could do the San Francisco event!
I declined the invitation in an email this morning to the show coordinator. And feel a huge sense of relief.
My near-lapse into overdrive is also nudging me back in alignment with my priorities. I am reminded that I need to keep them in front of me or I will inevitably chase after the next shiny object that catches my attention.